Wives would you be upset if your husband didnt recognize you on imp.dates?

When my hyusband and I were dating he bought me flowers and cards for no reason now we are married and its like he doesnt care anymore. I dont expect alot but a card means more to me than a gift. I have been a stay at home mom for 6 years our agreement and he wont buy me anything for special dates b/c I dont. Well he wont let me he says he makes the money and he isnt buying his own gift. I am a faithful wife of 9 years,good mother,take care of the home and errands and go out of my way to meet his needs and its like it doesnt matter. I feel as if I am being punished b/c I am not bringing in money. I babysit part-time making only 30.00 a week. I am doing it to help a friend not to get rich. Anyway my husband bought me a ring for x-mas and I have to pay him back. I told him if I was Carmen Electra thats who he says he would leave me for that he wouldnt make her pay him back yeah I know she is rich but what if she were me and was a stay at home mom. I am hurt that he doesnt take special dates important wouldnt you be hurt as well if your husband didnt recognize you fro iomportant dates?